From Ma Yili, Liu Tao to Wang Ziwen, the full-time mom of the film and television drama has become a high-risk occupation

From Ma Yili, Liu Tao to Wang Ziwen, the full-time mom of the film and television drama has become a high-risk occupation
In “The Second Time Is Beautiful”, the heroine goes from An An (left), a full-time mother who has been out of marriage, to the society (right).The “full-time mothers” in the domestically produced dramas were mostly miserable. In the “Second and Beautiful”, the heroine An An (Wang Ziwen), a post-90s, is a “marriage”, and she will get married after graduation.She thinks that she is married to love and is the happiest person-she doesn’t have to work after graduation and don’t have to worry about life, because men will support her.In the second year after marriage, they also had the crystallization of love.But in the sixth year after marriage, when An An was used to becoming a full-time mother, when An An was also used to relying on her husband, she suddenly received her husband’s divorce request, and the husband showed extreme indifference to her, and the love disappeared.An An has no work and no ability to survive. She has even lost love and her son ‘s custody.Even when she was in college, she was the best student and a sharp cartoonist, but six years later, the workplace is no longer friendly to her.An An ‘s experience is not unique.In the “We All Are Good” starring Liu Tao and Yang Shuo aired in May this year, the search for Liu Tao and the forward playing by Yang Shuo are a couple, looking for a full-time mother and a preschool son.Looking for a student from Shuxiangmendi, she engaged in her favorite stage work, but after she married, she had to give up her job and become a full-time wife.Forward is devoted to work, neglecting the search for mother and child, looking for severe depression, and divorcing forward.For a full-time mother who suffers from depression and has long been out of society, reintegrating into society is difficult.In “We All Want to Be Good”, I also searched for a full-time mother (left) and later found my career path (right).Step by step, we must mention Jin Dong, Ma Yili, Yuan Quan and Lei Jiayin’s explosive drama “My First Half of Life”.Luo Zijun, played by Ma Yili, is also a full-time wife. Her son goes to school every day, her husband goes to work, and the aunt does housework. The day is boring but easy.When she was going to eat like this and wait for her life to survive, her husband got cheated and filed for divorce.Middle-aged women who have been in captivity at home for many years and have no work also have to break into society again.Looking down on these mainstream urban life dramas, the audience will inevitably form an impression: Why is the situation of a full-time mother after being divorced so “tragic”?Isn’t a full-time mother also a job?The concept of a full-time mother as a “career” is no longer formed. From a common sense perspective, a full-time mother is indeed a profession.Now in a big city like Beishangguang, it costs tens of thousands of yuan per month if you want to ask your sister-in-law.But not every family asks for a babysitter, because many housework is done by women. If it is a full-time mother family, then the full-time mother will naturally undertake most of the housework.However, we rarely see the phenomenon of paying full-time mothers.Even many men have such a myth that doing housework is not a job, and it is natural for full-time mothers to do housework for free.As a result, they also devalued the value of full-time mothers-full-time mothers did not pursue, full-time mothers did not contribute.In “My First Half of Life”, the housewife Luo Zijun (left) who encountered her husband’s derailment and her experienced growth (right).But the fact is that the job of a full-time mother is not as easy as you might imagine.A full-time mother is also known as a housewife. As the name suggests, the family is the service object of the housewives. They have already done housework, and they have to serve parents, husbands and children.The day of many full-time mothers is like this: get up early in the morning, make breakfast for her husband and children, send children to school, buy food at the grocery market, do housework, pick up children from school, make lunch, send children to school, do housework, pick up children from school, for husbandChildren prepare hearty dinners, tutor children to do their homework, do housework . Some full-time mothers have to wait for the elderly at home.Therefore, in countries such as Japan, the concept of professionalization of full-time wives / full-time mothers is popular.In the Japanese drama “Escape but not shameful but useful”, when the employer Tsuzaki Hiroko and the nanny Moriyama Suri fell in love, they wanted to move to their house. Tsuzaki suggested that Moriyama Suri go out to work, and Moriyama realized: “I have alreadyI have a housework job!Why should I do housework for free as a wife?”But in China, this concept is still lacking, and full-time mothers are generally vulnerable.They do not have the financial power, they get some work, and there is no corresponding value.This also affects the self-awareness and self-identity of many full-time mothers. Low self-esteem in turn allows them to close themselves, thereby reducing the possibility of social communication and closing diverse lifestyles.The ability to be independent.Looking at the present, revealing some “life apocalypse” film and television plays is a reflection of reality.In film and television dramas, full-time mothers become “dangerous” occupations, accompanied by the creator’s alarmist talk, but rather, this is a reflection of the real-time mothers’ breakthrough.It’s just that many family crises are not serious enough to be divorced, and full-time mothers broke their teeth and swallowed blood.To make a full-time mother professional is not something that can be done in a few sentences. It is part of the larger structure of social inequality between men and women.In such a situation, what can remind women is whether or not you are a full-time mother, you must be financially independent.This is also the core idea of several TV series mentioned above. When women have a foothold in society, when they have the economic initiative, they will regain control of their lives and ultimately their careers.Although the film and television play is too idealized, the concept has practical significance.As early as 1923, Mr. Lu Xun wrote “How Does Nora Go?”, Thinking that if Nora’s economy is not independent, “either fall or come back.”In the novel “Sad Death” written in 1925, Lu Xun continued to tell us with a sad story that women’s economy is not independent, even if only the majesty of the family, they can only rely on the protection of her husband.Frankly speaking, when the full-time mothers are not professional, they are not in a much better situation with Nora and Zijun.Therefore, Dai Jinhua said, “Now people only represent the price of being a professional woman, not mentioning the price of being a housewife.How big is that price, do you know?Without economic independence, do you really think there will be room for autonomy . Today’s women seem to have the right to choose, but when you choose, don’t think that there is a non-paying lunch in the option.”Why not be a full-time mother, but remember that you have to improve your financial power and have the ability to be self-reliant-like Luo Zijun or An An, at first, it was impossible to self-degenerate after finding a long-term” meal ticket “.After all, “The second time is also beautiful” is an idol drama after all, An An will eventually counterattack, but in real life, full-time mothers have to start a second life, difficult.□ Cong Yi (play reviewer) Editor of Sauna Night Net Wu Longzhen proofread Zhai Yongjun